Don, you could also consider moving your images from computer to Ipad via Dropbox. Its free for 2GB and you can either 'save' them IN Dropbox for offline viewing (which will retain your folder setup) or transfer to Photos. I just don't bother with Itunes except for upgrades now
I know you both will enjoy your Ipads. I bet, like me, you will find you're able to do a lot more than you ever expected with it and find uses that you hadn't imagined.
I had to buy a second Ipad for my husband too LOL. If you want to share apps you can by simply registering the second one in your name also, even using 2 computers, and when you go to app store on Ipad to dl the app on the second Ipad it will say you have already dled it and there will not be a second charge. Works the same for books on Kindle, Nook and Ibooks too if you use same registration.